Coping With Loss Of Pet – 4 Tips To Get Past Feelings Of Guilt
Coping With Loss Of Pet – 4 Tips To Get Past Feelings Of Guilt
Having a pet is one of the best friendships you can have – a pet is always available and in spite of human flaws, they do not judge and will continue to love you! Coping with the loss of your pet is never easy. Grieving after a pet dies is a completely normal reaction, however, it is easy to take it a step further and start to blame yourself for the death. You may feel that if you were in more command of the situation, the death would never have occurred.
Holding yourself responsible for the death of a pet can prevent you from moving ahead and healing from the loss. There can be many factors involved that cause you to having feelings of guilt:
a) avoided getting the annual vaccinations
b) did not provide enough exercise and play time
c) adequate nourishment was not always given
d) did not see symptoms of ill health
e) unable to afford additional medical care
f) were careless and allowed an accident to occur
Although you may not have always made the most desirable decisions in caring for your pet, it is important to stop blaming yourself. To better cope with the loss of your pet, accept that you wish you had handled the situation a better way and discuss this with people you care about. The following are four tips to help get past feelings of guilt:
1) realize that animals tend to hide signs of illness
2) remember the love you had for your pet and that you never planned to hurt it
3) recall all of the wonderful times you spent with your pet, and the occasions you provided for and cared for it
4) write a letter to your pet, explaining why you feel guilty and ask for forgiveness
In coping with the loss of your pet, guilt can be one of the strongest emotions you experience.
By learning to get past the self blame, you can move forward and appreciate the wonderful times you shared with your treasured pet.
Deborah A. is an animal lover with a special interest in helping others cope after the loss of a pet. Are you trying to move past the grief of your pet’s death? CLICK HERE or go to: http://www.petlosshelp.info to get more tips and relief in coping with your pet loss.
I have always loved animals and enjoyed having various pets as a child. As an adult, I spent 10 years breeding cockatoos and presently have a Bengal cat. Even with all the joy that having a pet brings to your life, also comes the heartache when the inevitable death of a pet occurs. I hope that my article can provide some help and consolation as you work through the grief of losing a beloved pet.
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Pet Loss and Grief – 4 Steps to Help Cope With Feelings of Guilt
When we have a pet, we naturally take on a deep sense of responsibility. Our pet depends on us for food, water, shelter, healthcare, and love. When we suffer a pet loss, the grief may seem overwhelming. One of the strongest emotions we can feel after a pet’s death is guilt.
Feeling guilt is a normal reaction to the grief we are going through after experiencing a pet loss. If you lost a pet through an accident, you may be thinking “if only I had…”
- Been keeping a closer eye
- Exercised more caution
- Had come directly home
- Been more aware
If you lost a pet through an unforeseen illness, you may be wondering “why didn’t I…”
- Get to the veterinarian sooner?
- Consider getting another medical opinion?
- Pay closer attention to see signs of illness?
- Not wait so long to do anything?
You may still find other reasons to feel guilty about a pet’s death, thinking “if only I had…”
- Not been so preoccupied
- Devoted more attention
- Not pushed him/her off my lap
- Not yelled at him/her
Sometimes there is nothing we can when our pet succumbs to an illness or suffers an injury. In working through feelings of guilt, we may learn how to better identify symptoms of ill health or gain knowledge from a mistake. The following four steps can assist in coping with feelings of guilt after a pet’s death:
1) Talk about your feelings to a family member or close friend who can provide more objectivity
2) Change the focus from your feelings of powerlessness to the times you had with your pet in good health and the occasions you took excellent care of your pet
3) Recognize that you cared for your pet the best way you could at that time, that injuries and sickness happen, and that people make errors
4) Talk to your veterinarian about any remaining concerns about your pet’s state of health
Although the pet loss and grief can be devastating, it is important to remember that having feelings of guilt are to be expected and it will take time to work through them and begin the healing process.
Deborah A. is an animal lover with a special interest in helping others cope after the loss of a pet. Are you trying to move past the grief of your pet’s death? CLICK HERE or go to: http://www.petlosshelp.info to get more tips and relief in coping with your pet loss.
I have always loved animals and enjoyed having various pets as a child. As an adult, I spent 10 years breeding cockatoos and presently have a Bengal cat. Even with all the joy that having a pet brings to your life, also comes the heartache when the inevitable death of a pet occurs. I hope that my article can provide some help and consolation as you work through the grief of losing a beloved pet.
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